I'M MOVING OUT
This blog is gone for good, although I'm not deleting it. I just feel the need for something new.Anyways, I moved HERE. Hope to see you there.
To discover who I truly am, you must come with me, and we shall both find out.
She wanted none of that. As far as she was concerned, the deal was finally done – convinced that it was all that she ever wanted.
“Simple lang,” she recalled to me. “Hindi ko gusto ang glamurosang buhay.”
It was hard to believe that, knowing she had consistently aced five straight terms. She needed to endure four more, of course, but she was quite easily set for anything she wanted – earn dollars, live abroad, or simply stay here, work at a famous telecommunications company, or, barring that, a local TV station.
“Maraming papatay para umabot sa posisyon mo ngayon. Ano ‘yun, pagkatapos mong mag-aral, magbubukid ka lang?” I challenged, partially in jest.
She grinned. “Gusto ko ‘yun dati, kaso sayang naman, ‘di ba? Pero ‘yun nga – ‘yung hindi mayaman para ‘di masalimuot ang buhay.”
It often comes misconstrued, but it was always how much that mattered more. It was never a matter of if we were; it was always where we were – and we’re here for sure, although where exactly remains as open-ended as ever. Maybe, it’s the gravity of its improbability seeping through – knowing that we are forever to trudge on striving for which that they say could never be achieved. Then again, it’s supposed to be the challenge that keeps you going.
You’re supposed to learn something after all. There’s the chance that things get messier, but then, things get settled anyway. It’s simply a matter of time when you feel you could just stand still and watch everything fly by. She’s found that moment, at least, and a semblance of happiness and fulfillment beyond which she no longer yearns for. I’ve personally wondered how anyone could be as contented with that, while I find something that’s decidedly scary about the unknowable. And yet there’s that and there's happiness. Granted, we’ve strained too much of ourselves to be where we are now, you simply can’t contend with that feeling, despite knowing you’re seeing something good go to waste. At least she knows what she wants; there’s something I haven’t achieved myself.
And for everything else, there’s doubt and the people who talk about the future; those who get thrilled, the ones who get scared, and others who don’t give anything at all. But always, always, it’s the people who know what they want and believe in it who ultimately succeed.
He never wonders what happens now. Maybe he never cares. He’s changed, they say, as though he’s become a bit more forgiving. Gone were the days he’d look for something that wasn’t there. Instead, he stayed with the thing that matters the most - his happiness.
He was spontaneous now, somewhat unpredictable, even. Not so long ago, he decided to take a leap of faith and shared himself to someone he didn’t know. Small talk, he considered. He contended with his own reservations, still, but he tried to make it work. Eventually, he formed a bond.
It wasn’t surprising that he decided to stick to that resolve. He realized then that there will always be a place for the thing they call small talk; no longer keeps to himself nor thinks that conversations always had to be intellectual, lest he becomes marooned in his own solitary dimension with nothing to talk to, or talk about. It doesn’t matter if he had to talk about David Archuleta, else explain microcontroller programming to someone he never knew. In a lot of ways, it was different now, and, yes, he’s changed. He was no longer alone. This was where he was.
He never wonders what happens now. That it’s been said it bordered on desperation never bothers him anymore. He wasn’t sure what he found, but he was happy; and that was all that mattered.
Unlike the hours slowly whittling away, we found the topics never grew scarce. It’s how real friendship works, they say; that, not unlike love – real love, that is – despite the distance, you can be sure it’s always there. When you’ve finally found that moment, you brush all the skepticism aside, because at that point at least, you feel you have something that’s going to last.
It’s amazing, isn’t it? Seeing the ubiquitous thick glasses you’ve never seen for three years; else, the crisp, white jacket and toque you thought you’d never see again. There’s something decidedly surreal about that. Years, you find yourselves talking about everything, from something as trivial as losing weight, to something as complicated as politics, to something as ridiculous as operatives materializing out of thin air. Somewhat more importantly, even, you still feel connected and strangely familiar, even though in actuality, it’s really been so long. As they say, it’s as though nothing’s ever changed.
There’s always doubt, of course; but suddenly, you think that maybe, there is something about blind faith, the one that tells you its going to work, even though deep down you never believed it would. It’s a risky proposition, of course – hoping for something and (sometimes) getting nothing in return – but at least, you realize that the possibility exists; that it’s not the differences between you that would undermine what you’ve shared together, but that it’s always about your own doubts or, as Niko would put it, your own paranoia.
At least for now, the thought is enough to keep me going – the thought that someday, we’re going to see each other again.
“Oh, but I do miss them,” I smiled wryly. “It’s just that we had to move on.”
It wasn’t unusual for the conversation to shift back to what got left behind - for he would never believe it was gone. Everyone found new stories to tell, while he would recount the ones that everyone had already forgotten about. He’d manage to talk about the ones he chanced to bump into, associate it with some memory he had from high school, choke up and get quite sentimental about it. He’d believe things will come back, although of course, they never did.
In some ways, he reminded me of myself - although I’ve never quite admitted that until now. It was way back when I’d miss high school, the people who I used to hang out with a lot, I would talk about them the same way he would. As most stories would end, I found out they didn’t feel the same way. People found new lives, and more importantly, new friends. They never came online anymore, for one, or never texted unless it was the generic greeting they would send everyone during the holidays. Sometimes, still, they didn’t even bother to greet you on Christmas or on your birthday, until after it’s one month too late.
We happened to bump into each other on the terminal before the plans finally broke down.
“Hindi ka ba talaga pupunta sa reunion, Dex,” he implored as we entered España gate.
“May pupuntahan talaga ako e. Next time?”
“Hindi mo ba sila na-mi-miss,” he prodded after that, which I answered as matter-of-factly as I could.
It never pushed through for, well, people like me who had already moved on. The proposition had only received as much as eight confirmations out of the forty plus who were invited and no more. It was postponed to January, but that didn’t work out either. I would eventually find out that even the factions that would have skipped the main party, but would have otherwise held a party of their own, never did. It would only seem that relationships have only gotten that much more divisive over the years that even those who have sworn undying friendship, at least to each other, at some point or another, have already forgotten their vows because of shifting priorities.
Sometimes, people move on; and even when they haven’t yet, one can be safely assume that, eventually, at some point in time, they will. No one knows for sure just how long we’ll get to keep the people we have right now. What we know that it is always a choice. We scrap the things that don’t work, and stick to the ones that do. Eventually, we realize, as I’m sure he would too, that we have to move on as well. Hopefully though, amidst the musings, we’ll also learn to be thankful for the people who have transcended those boundaries and chose to stay.